Family problems

How do I deal with this?

A family is made up of people with different needs, perspectives, and opinions. This often leads to arguments. This is important because it's the only way to develop as a family. Only then can you learn about the underlying needs of others or identify what's not going well.

However, a discussion or argument is often very exhausting. It consumes a lot of energy and can be very stressful.

However, if every conflict were to be swallowed down, honest coexistence would be impossible. Sooner or later, a major rift could follow.

This means that as long as arguments are a productive discussion of the needs of individuals, they have a positive impact on coexistence. This, of course, presupposes a healthy culture of debate. But what does that look like?

Investigate the causes

If someone in the family is looking for a fight, it is usually a sign that they are not doing well or feel they are not being treated fairly.

Perhaps the person lacks appreciation from others. Perhaps expectations weren't met, or they feel unappreciated.

A family member may also feel hurt for various reasons that others do not see from their perspective.

It is therefore important to question the causes of a dispute:

Why are we arguing right now? What's really at stake?

If you're struggling to resolve your family conflicts on your own, I'd be happy to help. Together we can identify the causes, understand the problems, and discover solutions.